Some of the surprise breakups happen in the heat of the moment. You may be thinking that it’s just a normal fight and it will just pass. But your partner decides to end the relationship because of this fight. He just can’t take it anymore.
If that’s the case, then there’s a good chance your partner will reconsider the breakup if you come back once he’s cooled down. It could just be a simple communication problem in the relationship and once you both learn to communicate properly, things will work out.
The relationship ended in the heat of the moment.
If you think this is the case for you, you basically give your ex some space for a week or two and then reach out and tell them how things can be different if you communicate effectively.
Chances are good that your ex will agree and you can get back together with a better understanding of relationships and communications. However, if they are still not ready to give each other another chance after having cooled off, then there is a deeper reason for the breakup.
The best way to find out is to calmly ask him his reasons. It is very likely that you will be honest about what causes you this dissatisfaction and why you want to end the relationship.
Does your partner never really tell you the reason for the breakup?
In some cases, your partner will surprise you with a breakup and simply disappear without giving you a proper explanation. These cases are extremely difficult because you have very little information to work with.
Why did he break up with you? What could you have done differently? Did your ex never love you? Were you even important? And in most cases, there is simply no way to find an answer to these questions.
Your instinct may want you to take all the blame. But the truth is, if your ex can’t offer you an explanation for the breakup, then he’s not up to you. He doesn’t have enough respect for the relationship you shared, and you deserve someone who respects and cares about you.
But still, I will list you some of the reasons that can make your ex act this way.
a) he was unfaithful to you.
The most common reason your ex acts the way she does is because she cheated on you and she just doesn’t want to accept it. He doesn’t want to come out and just say that he made a mistake and cheated on you. Instead, he decides to just end the relationship without any explanation and leaves you wondering why.
In his opinion, hurting you and leaving you in pain is somehow a better option than presenting himself as unfaithful in front of you (for example, he may think that it would hurt you a lot if you found out, and it’s better that you never find out). This means that your ex is a selfish person.
b) He is very afraid.
In most cases, fear is mainly psychological and based on your own problems. Some people spend so much time repressing their past traumas, fears, and attachment issues that the thought of facing them and sharing them with another person is too much to handle.
They spend their entire lives avoiding these fears, these traumas, these walls that they have built around their true selves. And if the breakup occurred because of something they want to hide, they won’t share it with you.
They may go to great lengths NOT TO SHARE THE REAL REASON for the breakup. In some cases, he will lie to you. And in others, he will simply refuse to share anything altogether. And he will just stop talking to you.
You must commit to moving forward with your life.
The breakup already happened. The person you loved the most suddenly blindsided you with a breakup. The good news is that there is no other way but to move forward. But that’s not entirely true. In fact, you may regress if you continue to obsess over your ex and continue to humiliate yourself in self-pity.
But the real good news is that if you commit to moving forward with your life, you will get through this and come out stronger than ever. So even if you made a fool of yourself after the breakup. Even if you begged your ex or begged him to take you back.
Even if you can’t seem to figure out the real reason for the breakup. You must stand up and commit to moving forward with your life. Try to figure out what you need to do to be a better person.
As time goes by, you will start to feel better and little by little you will get over your ex. But if you feel like you’re stuck, I recommend that you cut off all communication with your ex. If you feel like you and your ex had something special, then you may even choose to try to get your relationship back together.
But do it only if you are sure that it is a healthy decision for you.
