Please note that sending text messages to your ex after a breakup can make matters worse, but how to use these texts to your advantage.
If you’re just going through a breakup, the urge to send a text message to your ex can be hard to resist. But that’s one of the worst things you can do right now (apart from calling or go home). But there is good news: You can use this to your advantage!
The 2 enemies after a breakup...
If you just broke, you’re probably not the best mood to talk to your ex right now. Your ex probably just is not in the best mood to talk to you.
Ending a relationship is not easy for both. While talking with him or her can be almost the only thing you want to do at this time, it is likely that you can do more harm than good by contacting your ex.
At this point they are likely to say things that one or both may repent later. The most important thing is that by doing this going to show unattractive trait of despair, and that is the memory of you will remember that your ex.
If you’re looking for reconciled, it is important to take a step back before any contact with your ex. Do not communicate until you are sure you have your feet on the ground and head in place.
You also have to give some time for you to miss it. The upturas are kind of wars. There is a winner and a loser. Really largely depends on you. Avoid desperate act not only make you look sharp, you can rekindle those feelings that your ex still feels about you.
Once you cut ties completely with your ex, you can begin to see their behavior. Your ex expected to chase a bit when it goes. When it does not, highlights your insecurities. It is likely that after a few weeks of no contact, your ex send messages.
Your ex will find reasons to communicate with you. Maybe just to see how you are. You may want to goad showing you that you are lost without him or her to make you feel better too. Maybe just do it because you miss.
What these signs mean can be.
Your ex is not going to start sending text messages to tell you he loves you, wants you back, and what to expect with your favorite movie and a new puppy. Are more likely to text messages look something like this:
Hello, I think I left my blue jacket in your apartment. Have you seen him?
That’s not the real reason for contacting you. The reality is that is sending signals. Your ex wants to get some kind of response from you.
Now gave the first step! Your ex is in contact with you. But this can be dangerous. Do not get too excited. At this stage, your ex is trying to get a response from you. He is trying to find the answer for not calling or texting since the break. Although it may have been your ex who dumped you.
How should you handle these texts after the break.
You must respond to these texts. Do not ignore them, but do not respond instantly. Even if you are tempted to respond immediately, let some time before responding.
This will give you time to hold on, wait for your answer and also give them the impression that you are continuing with your life without him or her and not just you’re sitting by the phone waiting for my call.
You must answer briefly but pleasantly. Do not be rude. If you prefer something shorter. Interact with your ex in the same way that you would a waiter in a restaurant (unless you’re an idiot).
The most important rule here is this: you have to let your ex send the last message. This requires some moderation, but leave a little emotional power on your side.
Even if texts are clearly sending signals it is best to treat them with caution. If your ex is texting asking how your pet is simply replies that is fine. Leave it at that. Do not invite him to come and hug your mascot.
It is still not the time. At this stage, you should keep the short contact and make them work in your favor just a little. The time to communicate more intimately will come, and when it comes, if you stay with this touch, you will have a great advantage.
Do not get caught with text messages from the beginning and let them become your worst enemies. In fact you can get your ex back if you really commit to it right. I have shown only a step on how you can begin to change things.
This step is only the tip of the iceberg. If you can get your ex back! Best of all, if you follow this path you’re going to start all over (with only a little help on some key emotional cues that you can put into play).
Best of luck! You know you can do it!
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