The first thing I have to clarify in this article is that there are no miracle words that make you recover your ex girlfriend or wife «overnight.»
Yes there are phrases that can help you regain your ex, make you interested again in you and rekindle the «spark» that had the relationship in the beginning.
The mistake many men make when trying to recover a relationship is to think that there is a «magic» technique or a perfect phrase that will make them regain the love of their ex-partner, when this is not so, what they really should worry about a man who wants to regain a relationship is to DO THINGS WELL and to have patience.
So, before going into the phrase section to regain a relationship, it is important that you know what this means to «do things right», since NOTHING will help you know what words to tell your ex girlfriend or wife if on the other hand you misbehave.
What you must be clear yes or yes to recover your ex girlfriend:
Take a step to the side.
The term of the relationship means one thing for now: your ex is demanding time and space, and your obligation as a man and as a person who loves and respects her is to give it to her.
This can be difficult to understand at first, especially for men who have many years of relationship or for those who have children and can not stop seeing their partners, but it is simply a reality that you have to accept if you want to have options to recover the relationship.
What happens if after the end of the relationship you did not give this time and space to your ex? You are still in time to do it, although the ideal would have been that she saw that you accepted the term of the relationship from the beginning, but do not worry if you made this mistake.
It is natural that this happens to you, since a man who is left by his wife tends to fall into a deep sadness followed by a denial of the situation.
This does, in most cases:
– Call her on the phone to ask for explanations.
– Promise that it will change.
– I beg you to give yourself another chance.
– Send you text messages or Chat messages.
– Spying on her place of studies or work.
– Obsessing with your ex partner.
If you passed or you are going through all this do not worry, it is absolutely normal, the important thing is that you realize that all these behaviors are WRONG and that you should stop behaving like this if you want to get your wife back.
Why do I have to stay away from my ex? Will not this be harmful?
Many men are afraid of giving the bride and wife time and space after the end of the relationship because they think it will hurt their chances of regaining their relationship.
These men should simply ask themselves, «Do I have more options of getting my ex back up by overwhelming her all the time or giving her space and waiting for time to heal the wounds?» I think the answer is clear.
Getting away from your ex-wife and giving her the space she’s demanding will benefit you because you’ll CONFUSE your ex.
She is waiting for you to behave like most men who have been left behind by their women behave, but you will not give her that benefit.
After the breakup, she was left in the position of «power» in the relationship, because she made the decision to end the relationship, not you, all this makes her believe that:
– You’re thinking about her all day.
– You’re suffering for her.
– You are seeing pictures of when they were together and you are crying in excess.
And I do not say that your ex likes to think that you are living all this, she simply assumes that you are living it.
By showing you that you are NOT living that and that you are absolutely right, what you will do will be to DISPOSE and confuse it very much, to the level that is questioned if breaking with you was the right thing or not.
So my advice is not to call her, do not try to locate her, avoid thinking about her (being distracted by some activity is best for this, practice some hobbie, go out with friends, start practicing a sport, keep your mind busy and not you are locked in your house), do not get to your Facebook or Twitter profile, in short, try not to have any contact with her, for at least 2 to 3 full weeks.
But you have to commit to fulfilling this, otherwise she will confirm your decision to have ended the relationship and you will find it more difficult to take a path to regain it.
Your main goals when disconnecting from your ex are:
1) Generate curiosity in it.
2) Do not give in to taste.
3) Show that the term of the relationship did not affect you as she believes.
4) Improve your mental health and self-esteem.
5) Improve your appearance (style, haircut, way of expressing yourself, attitude, verbal and corporal language).
6) Distract yourself, go out with friends, even meet other women.
7) Prepare well for reunion with your ex-girlfriend or wife.
In my book «Back With It» is explained all this strategy in amplitude so you know how to apply it correctly step by step, but the principles you know.
Now let’s go to the phrases or words that you can use when you meet your ex-girlfriend or wife, so that she perceives in you a new man, a man who is happy with his current situation and who «does not need it» to be full.
Recommended phrases or words to recover your ex girlfriend or wife
«Hello [your ex’s name], how are you? I hope everything is going well … «(wait until I ask you how you are, do not talk much about yourself if she does not ask you).
«I am the best, I have been many projects that I had in mind and I am very happy, it would be fun to tell you more details and tell me about you, let’s get together sometime this week? I could on Wednesday and Friday «(with this you make it clear that you only have those 2 days free and it’s a casual invitation, no compromises).
If she refuses this invitation tell her that it is a casual meeting of friends, that there is no compromise, although she should notice it because of your relaxed and relaxed tone of voice.
If this appointment is carried out you should worry that it will not last more than 20 to 25 minutes, it must be in a «fast» cafe because you «are busy and have things to do», this will leave you «wanting more» «And even more confused and interested in why you are having such an active life.
Tips for this appointment:
– Listen to her more, talk less.
– Do not speak anything negative, no subject. Your goal is for her to begin to relate you to positive, not negative, emotions.
– Do not apologize for any of the relationship, you’re talking to a friend, not «your ex».
– Look into her eyes when she is talking to you, let her know that you are listening to her, that you pay attention to her, but do not intimidate her with your look.
– Try to have a relaxed and relaxed attitude, do not force anything, behave as if you really knew that they will not return and as if you were well with that.
More phrases ideas:
«At the end of the month I go on a trip with friends from the university (or place of work), I am very enthusiastic, I always wanted to know that place (I gave a very interesting place), I would have liked to go with you but hey, no it could be haha
(If you ask more about your life or your close circle you can say something like the following) «I was talking to a friend the other day and I got into an argument, I can not believe that I support (say something that you and your ex support and have in common), is crazy, although I almost make you change your mind, it seems that only we thought that way haha.
«I like that we have got together and share how our lives are, I’m glad to hear from you.»
«Do you remember when …?» (Tell her an anecdote that you have lived together and that brings you happy and funny memories, your goal is that she subtly remember the relationship they had as a positive experience and wonder why it is over).
«Ahh I did not tell you but I’m attending …» (tell her that you’re doing something to change an attitude of yours that bothered her, for example, if you were antisocial and did not like to relate to people, say that now that has changed,
or if you had alcohol problems, tell him that you are changing that because you realized that it made you sick, yes, always make it clear that you do it for yourself, not for anyone else, all this in a subtle and casual tone).
«Well, tell me about yourself… how is it going …» (ask her for something she would have liked to do, some project she had in mind or something that would motivate her a lot.) Women love to talk about what they are passionate about and if you know how to listen and advise, much better).
«Look, the son was born, do not know what name to put… I suggested» DiunName «, but I do not know, can you think of any? haha … «(this technique is very effective for generating positive emotions in your ex.
Show him a picture of a baby from your mobile phone, and explain that he is the son of an acquaintance of yours, and tell him that you went to see him and gave him baby toys, with this your ex will feel powerful emotions that will arouse an interest in you. They have a maternal instinct that at the subconscious level is always present).
(These phrases for the end of the meeting) «You know? After everything that happened to us, I think everything is going through something. I think what we had had more good times than bad and I like staying with the good ones, do not you think? »
«You will always be the girl that I liked the most and that will not change, I always hope I can continue to know about you».
«Well it seems that I have to go … they are waiting for me, it was great to be able to get together, I loved seeing you, it should be repeated, we are talking and you are the best.»
All these phrases fulfill 2 functions: they show you as a man who is calm and happy with his life, and provoke positive emotions in your ex, that will associate you with those emotions and want more and more.
You’re probably wondering, do I basically have to lie for the whole date? And the answer is yes.
But I can also answer you with another question, why lie and not begin to live exactly as you will appear to be living?
In seduction there is a basic principle that is very true and tremendously effective: You must Look, appear and appear, to BE. You will act so much like a calm, relaxed and relaxed man, that you will end up feeling like this and you will say goodbye to the obsessive man who overwhelmed to his ex girlfriend or wife.
Human psychology works that way, believe it or not. And feminine psychology in particular has told us over the years is that they want to be with a man who provides positive emotions and a man who is successful, and this does not mean having a lot of money, it means:
-Love what you do-