In the first case, it seems that both have agreed to disagree, so simple. In the second case, it seems that one of the parties still have some faith in the other person, so the idea of a restoration is a hope.
How to revive a damaged relationship …
Although there may be hope of a restoration of the relationship, the task undertaken is touching how? I offer here four guidelines that can help in the process.
Guideline # 1. Identify what you should not do
Do not deviate for reasons unrelated afford, however tempting, important or urgent. People who do not fit into your overall plan should be ejected like a virus. In no way lose your focus or temper, no matter how tempting. Remember it is easy to destroy, but build if it costs.
While working with a plan to restore the relationship, there may be occasions when there are phone calls, and he or she is excused himself to answer those calls. No qualms there.
Guideline # 2. Specifies what you can do to revive a relationship that no longer works
Surely you are not omnipotent. So you can not do everything and be everything your partner wants. That is an acceptable and normal human limitations. You should not promise the moon if you can not fulfill.
It is good and reasonable mantengues you silent about something that is beyond your ability. Insists on the positive things within reason to deliver. «You intend to spend a week with his mother,» if you are female. «When you have time to spend with my mom, she wants to see you ‘, if you are male.
Guideline # 3. How to focus on the area of interest
Do not rush to finish a conversation, because emotionally charged nature. It’s exciting for both and for the relationship. Go carefully and understand – quietly, safely and smoothly.
Remember you want to revive the damaged relationship, not the state it was before the wreck, but to a better health and emotional stability of the two. In fact feasible. That’s your decision.
The spirit in which you undertake the job of reviving the relationship is important. You have to arm yourself with a spirit of understanding, deliberation and openness. Let no suspicion of the past opaque tone of voice, emotion or sense of judgment.
Guideline # 4. Freezes the problem
In fact you can face the temptation to generalize or speak ironically. Resist the recurring question (s) that caused a decline or ruin the relationship, no matter how unpleasant, delicate or sensitive it may be, you can talk and resolve.
The conversation is all. Many good future relations have broken prematurely, not because they show clear signs of promise and love, but because the dialogue is often overlooked, is neglected by both.
What caused the breakdown of the relationship? This can dialogue carefully. The work was done with the understanding, consideration, kindness, and a heart willing to negotiate and resolve.
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