Why does it seem that like to cling to the past?
In the relationship is considerably more common carry past failures, indiscretions, disagreements, feelings, problems, whatever. The problem is … Is this healthy?
I would say probably not. Is it ideal? Definitely not, but unfortunately, we are all human. If relations were always perfect day after day, then it would be a bit boring.
But the question is how to forget the past in a relationship
However, the continuous struggle of the past means, or both, can not seem to move on. That could be because it is perceived that the feelings were not heard before, or because the problem still exists, but definitely not doing any of you ever comes.
So how do you move on? Well, that has so much of yourself as an adult and agree to leave it behind you. If you or your partner are not willing to do that or are not prepared to go on, be honest and tell the other person what is happening with you, no matter how painful. Otherwise, persist and persist and break your relationship.
If both agree to move forward with sincerity, then you need to forget and move on, really. The question we must ask – why not forgive and forget?
Leave the past is not easy but it is vital
These discussions can occur several times, but must be addressed otherwise never will be solved and my bet is that will happen quite often if allowed to happen. Keep in mind that sometimes things will happen for any reason, a fight or disagreement, or that the person is upset about something that has nothing to do with you and is a way to express your anger.
Often judges are more critical of ourselves and often submit to the people closest to us because of our frustration. It may not be about you – so do not try to take it personally.
I know, is much easier said than done, but better for you if you do not take it personally. Again, this is not always the case so listening to what the other person says «really» is very important.
A good relationship is based on a constant flow of communication, which means listening, speaking and above all be honest with others. If you can not be honest with your partner and vulnerable with your partner, you’re probably not in the correct ratio.
Forgetting the past is to be in a relationship
Being in a relationship means taking the risk of being completely vulnerable to that person even though you can be hurt or injured. This does not mean he or she does not love you.
We’ve all done these things, it is likely that a person or another, but is more painful when you are in a relationship with someone you love. Honesty is the most important thing with the paper, whether in marriage, the long-term relationship or a relationship that will happen someday.
Adhere listening to each other, or start, if not already done so. Life is meant to be a bit risky at times, and if you’re conscious about love, then you should take seriously the communication. Stay always working on your relationship and things will get better in one way or another. Do not be afraid.
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