Why would anyone want to go back with your ex? Why do you want to be back with someone who came out of your life? Why do you want to be with someone who no longer wants to be with you?
These are all valid questions that some people have about reconciliation. But not those who want to return to her ex, because they have a very simple answer to all these questions: «I still love my ex». And as we all know love is the only thing that matters in this world.
Now, do not misunderstand, I’m not against reconciliation. In fact, most of my articles are about to get your ex. But I am against NEED confused with love.
Bad reasons to return to your ex:
I love you / I love her.
I can not live without him / her.
I’ll never find someone like him / her.
He / She was my soul mate.
I’m sad without him / her.
I can not imagine life without him / her.
There could be many other variations of the above. But you should know that no reason is solid if you can see desperation or necessity in it.
Now, there may be many reasons to try again. I know of many cases of couples who got back together and live a happy life. I receive many emails from my readers who got back together and getting married, and I have never been happier.
6 reasons why it is worth saving your relationship.
Now, here are some of the reasons that if it would be a good idea to get back together.
# 1. The break was a hasty decision.
Sometimes relationships break down because of the ego. Often people give up easily end a beautiful relationship instead of working on it. These types of break are often hasty and not well thought out decision.
# 2. You had a great relationship.
save your relacionAhora have to understand I’m not talking about the «honeymoon» phase of the relationship. I mean, the time when your partner seems perfect, never fight and simply can not be beat. NO, it does not define a relationship. That’s just an average ratio with a period of average honey moon.
A great relationship is based on honesty, respect, trust and communication.
How would you rate your relationship in these 4 factors? If you think that was great on the 4 areas, then you can go ahead and say that your relationship with your ex was great. And I sincerely wish you well.
# 3. They have a child together.
A divorce or separation can be very hard for a child. If the possibility of getting back together and give their relationship another chance, then it is worth a try.
However, if your relationship was abusive or toxic, then the separation is much better than being together. There is nothing worse for a child to grow up in a toxic environment.
# 4. It was a circumstantial break.
Often, relationships are broken because of the circumstances. Perhaps one of you had to go to another city for study or work and did not want to continue the relationship to the distance (or tried to distance relationship did not work).
If this is the case, then it is worth trying to get back with your ex, provided that circumstances have changed.
# 5. You see some serious potential in the relationship.
couple amorosaEsta reason is a bit difficult to analyze, because anyone who thinks that there is still love between the two, believe that there is potential in the relationship. But it’s worth putting here.
If you think you can really have a great future with your ex, then it might be worth trying again. However, be sure not to concentrate all your efforts on back with your ex or obsessed with it.
You just try to get back with your ex once.
If not, you should move on with your life. Sometimes a false hope leads to cling to a lost cause. And before you know it, you’ve spent your whole life chasing the white whale.
# 6. Your friends think it’s a good idea to get back with your ex.
In most cases, your friends and family will tell you simply get on with your life and forget your ex. And I do not say always right. However, if you say you should try to get back with your ex, then it probably means that your relationship is worth saving.
Your friends will know better than anyone and if they think your ex deserves another chance, then it is worth trying to reconciliation.
Applying the zero contact time.
After the break, it is almost impossible to make a rational decision about whether or not you back with your ex. Your mind will try to convince you somehow worthwhile. It will ignore all the problems they had and only focus on the good stuff. You will make a mount in your mind of everything good about your ex, to convince you that it is the only one for you.
This is the reason why the zero contact is extremely important.
When you cut off all communication with your ex for at least 3 weeks, your mind begins to think clearly and you will be in a better position to make decisions.
So before taking any decision, make sure you’ve gone through the period of contact ZERO.