A relationship that has just ended, in whatever form it may have happened, it’s heartbreaking, depressing and stressful. No doubt about it. Be how you look from any angle where the key is. There really is a bright side to every situation.
Sadness after separation is necessary…
Regardless of how it used to be your relationship, not that. There is a good chance that you expect it to be a perfect relationship, a happy relationship if you had to get back with your ex. Unfortunately, what is done or there is not always easy to forget. Always drag unresolved feelings and / or problems that are within a person.
What kind of relationship did you have? He was co-dependent? Do you feel you «can not live without each other»? That is definitely not healthy. You can never trust another person or circumstance is to make you happy. You should try to find happiness just before seeking or start another relationship.
Did you have an abusive relationship? There are times that women more often than men, report that they prefer to have an abusive relationship, rather than not have a relationship, because there were times that it was good. Again, this is not at all healthy.
You are hoping to have a good relationship to go, obviously, is bad. You just have to do the things you enjoy for a while. Pamper yourself. Just so you’ll be better when the following relationship is coming to you.
Use this time to think about what you really want in a relationship. When you think about it for a time while in your life, when you’re not needed or needed, is where you will find different answers.
Forget the «I just want to have someone to talk to.» When you really feel safe in your own interior you can change this «I want to talk with someone who has the same interests as me.»
Separation is often an impulse to take it up again with more strength and dedication
If your ex said he just needs space, give you that space. Do not express your need for him or her and the impossibility of living without them. Give him the space he asks. If the relationship is really destined to prosper, it will happen without you having to make it happen. It’s the relationship itself that will work again in your life for herself.
If there are things you might want or could have said, then maybe that’s what we must solve first. Wait until you are on the greatest thrill of breaking. Give your ex space if that’s what you want.
If, after a couple of months, it still seems very important what you have to say, you can approach your ex. At that time there may also be things they would like to share.