There comes a time in relationships almost everyone thinks they are throwing in the towel. What if you do, but then your partner wants you back? What if he or she promises to change?
What if he or she swears that things will be different, that thing you never destroyed, never happen again? Would you believe? Do you run the risk of ending again with a broken heart?
If you plan to give new life to a broken relationship, here are 7 things to consider before you get back with your ex.
Remember that if you are thinking of going back to an ex who has serious problems such as addictions of any kind, he likes physical or emotional abuse – must seek outside help, support groups, etc. Abusers are very good at making empty promises.
Have you ever gave your ex a second chance? and did it work?
What happened to your relationship?
People break through all kinds of reasons. There is no right and wrong reasons to happen rupture. Everyone has to weigh what works and what does not work personally.
What we are not able to digest more. Think carefully about what is what broke and whether or not it’s something you can forgive or live with it – because there is no 100 percent guarantee that it will not continue to happen.
Why do you want to get back with your ex?
It is perhaps because he is preconando you much? Or maybe they are your children, or your family? This has to be your decision, nobody else. Do you really still love your ex and see a future together – or worries you have only one income, you feel lonely or want to go out again?
Think about whether you want to live together again, if everything else in your life was before Fabulo. If not so, then you probably do not really want, but just want a relationship. Even if it’s not good.
Analyzes the relationship as a whole.
Sometimes, when the relationship is bad, we ended up breaking something silly – but actually was the drop that filled the glass. If you feel regret because you forgot an anniversary or ex contacted by Facebook, ask yourself if that’s really what broke the relationship.
Chances are that what happened was much deeper than that. Are you as hard or harder to admit and confront what really went wrong as opposed to the «real» reason for separation?
The problem is repetitive?
What broke the relationship is something that still happening? How many opportunities have already given your ex? Part of the problem is that breaking or former can suddenly start making all sorts of promises saying never ever happen again.
But if you already happened again and again, the reality is that no matter how much your ex wants to change, just not able to. The psychology of your ex dating from childhood and form the habits of this person. These are not easily undo requires professional help.
You can really forgive?
If they decide to get back together, you can not estarle transgressions throwing your ex on your face every time you want to start a discussion. Not that the problem never to speak again, but can not be a repetitive reminder.
To get back with your ex be friends first.
First try to cultivate friendship with your ex. This way, you’ll stay as closely to see if their behavior has really changed. If you are not willing to change without involving sex, then most likely you just want to suck your blood and has no real intention of changing.
Watch your actions, not just listen to the words.
No matter how much your ex can promise you, you will never touch another drop of alcohol, ua another woman, or you will definitely get a job this time, do not listen to anything.
You have to really see how it behaves. Remember it’s like acts in the relationship which will determine everything. And be careful with changes before agreeing to give it another try.
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