Did you wonder why sometime clearly nobody teaches you how to have a successful marriage or partner, or how to save your marriage when problems arise?
So it’s not surprising that when relationships or marriages have a difficult time, usually after the children come, the vast majority of couples have no idea what to do.
In consequence, nearly 50% of marriages today and 75% of the relations of coexistence are broken or end, many, if not most unnecessarily.
These are the 10 effective steps to save your marriage.
Step 1: Put the problem aside.
If both are continually talking of «the problem» that becomes a problem in itself, and only serves to further distance. Paradoxical as it may seem, you need to put the «problem» aside for now. It is important that the deteriorating situation is stopped as soon as possible.
Step 2: You should engage with the process.
One of you or preferably both have to commit to this 10-step process for a minimum period of 90 days. It is necessary to do so wholeheartedly if they are to make the changes.
Step 3: Your marriage or relationship should be the priority.
Your marriage does not come to this status overnight and will take time and care to reverse the bad. Your marriage must be priority over your work, your entertainment, your friends and family and even your children. Is the best interest of your children the fact of having two parents in a marriage of love.
Step 4: You reconnect with your partner.
You can not solve problems or conflicts in the relationship from a position of being away. It is important to reconnect with others and enter an affinity, becoming allies instead of enemies.
Step 5: Take an inventory of what happened.
Since a stable position working together and collaborating to each other, you will begin to feel less stress, more hope and more ability to learn about how relationships work – or do not work!
This is a great opportunity to think about how you are fulfilling your human needs and how you will meet the needs of your partner, it is also the time to examine the values of each and how to value them.
Step 6: Stop playing and take things seriously.
We all like to play, but most of us are unaware that we do. The games are a dishonest attempt to meet our needs, giving the impression of being honest. The most destructive of all is the blame game.
Step 7: The emotional honesty.
If what you do is dishonest, then the way to overcome that is to be emotionally honest. It is to become more than just worry about what your partner thinks.
Step 8: Create a regulation conflicts.
Many couples do not understand that the conflict between couples is normal and even healthy. Many think that virtue is no conflict. What if it is not healthy is to have many unresolved conflicts or avoid conflict completely, it can be worse.
It is important that you develop the ability to be able to talk openly and honestly about the problems and what you’re not agree. That is the real beginning of emotional intimacy.
Step 9 to save your marriage: They should put healthy boundaries.
Couples usually do not know or understand the meaning of putting healthy boundaries, and it is important. We all have physical, mental, emotional and spiritual boundaries as well as couples and families.
Step 10: Develop a vision for the future.
There is a biblical passage that says, «Without a vision, the people perish». This means that what will happen first visualize it, for better or worse. Like I said, displayed couples get married, have a house and perhaps a close family, but not displayed beyond that.
It is important to create a vision for the future they desire to create. In order to do what it takes to consciously develop those skills related to improving, as the rule of conflict, communication, understanding, presence and empathy.
– About partner relationships.
Remember, relationships, like the plants need to be repotted regularly, otherwise they die! You owe it to yourself, your partner and your family, not only for your personal and professional development, but also for the development of your relationship.
In addition to lead your marriage to a new and more satisfactory level, you’re modeling great relationship skills to your children and grandchildren in the future. It is in your hands how to create your future family tree. Practice this step to save your marriage.
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